tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2102451431033041663.post7798169677697020940..comments2024-03-28T21:08:32.637+05:30Comments on Tomichan Matheikal's blog: Where has the youth gone?Tomichan Matheikalhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05037872309096060126noreply@blogger.comBlogger26125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2102451431033041663.post-17172002004570017752014-04-15T08:26:00.071+05:302014-04-15T08:26:00.071+05:30Sad to hear that you got hurt. Even I do not under...Sad to hear that you got hurt. Even I do not understand where this generation is leading into. Earlier, children used to play outside, play with toys. But now they born with Smart Phones and Tabs. Even guardians gift them these devices at the age of 3 or 4.<br /><br />Question is what if, if one parent denies them. Even if one denies, when child sees his friends using this big tots, he will feel deprived. Ultimately, parents have to avail these things to their child. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00090140641071202987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2102451431033041663.post-65181914123726937512014-04-13T20:40:05.246+05:302014-04-13T20:40:05.246+05:30Thank you, Jayanta. I'm sure you know what Mr...Thank you, Jayanta. I'm sure you know what Mr Narayana Murthy of Infosys did with his wealth. He refused to give it all to his children because he knew it would ruin them. He gave it to charity and asked his children to make their own wealth. Of course, he gave them the best education and the oppportunities to grow. that's ideal parenting, I believe. Tomichan Matheikalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05037872309096060126noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2102451431033041663.post-19642782230611291852014-04-13T20:37:57.703+05:302014-04-13T20:37:57.703+05:30Too much pampering, desiherald. I read this morni...Too much pampering, desiherald. I read this morning in Malayala Manorama that the Kerala Board of Exams has decided to give 17 marks as grace in the political science paper of class XI simply because some students found the exam hard. It means that any student getting 7 marks in the exam will pass the exam which was out of 80 marks. The teachers in Kerala questioned the decision of the Board saying that it was killing the education system. But who cares?Tomichan Matheikalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05037872309096060126noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2102451431033041663.post-51919877081805428522014-04-13T20:32:58.111+05:302014-04-13T20:32:58.111+05:30My god! Sangeeta, the boys would have just killed...My god! Sangeeta, the boys would have just killed me on the spot. You should have seen their body language. And believe me, Delhi doesn't care two hoots for anyone killing anyone on the road. Delhi finds that entertainment. I have understood Delhi more than any place I lived in. It's a place of animals who wear all kinds of garbs. Even those of Babas and saints. In fact, the boys seemed to have been of some political party. They were both wearing white kurtas with some kind of headgear and a scarf which meant some kind of clout.Tomichan Matheikalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05037872309096060126noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2102451431033041663.post-30975726682430438062014-04-13T20:30:03.132+05:302014-04-13T20:30:03.132+05:30Yeah, I've just read your comment... Well, it ...Yeah, I've just read your comment... Well, it goes a little beyond my normal understanding. Give me time to understand you. You know, in mylanguage (Malayalam) there's a very old (classical?) film song which starts thus: "Give me a moment to dissolve in you; give me a yug to understand you." Sometimes I find it easier to dissolve than understand. You seem to belong to that category. Tomichan Matheikalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05037872309096060126noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2102451431033041663.post-79653956429946604052014-04-13T20:24:16.212+05:302014-04-13T20:24:16.212+05:30Aren't you always welcome in my space, Manish?...Aren't you always welcome in my space, Manish? You know me and I know you. You and 99% of my students wouldn't have behaved that way... Anyway, that's nothing. I have learnt to smile a lot in spite of myself... Make your future. that's more important than my blogs. Tomichan Matheikalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05037872309096060126noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2102451431033041663.post-23844709229657456542014-04-13T20:22:11.020+05:302014-04-13T20:22:11.020+05:30Dear Preethi, why did you ever think I was blaming...Dear Preethi, why did you ever think I was blaming parents? I never intend to blame anyone. I raise a lot of questions. I'm fully aware how difficult it is for parents these days. I have brothers and sisters who are parents and I know... a lot more than you may imagine.<br /><br />I'm ok. Don't bother at all. I think I have the proverbial cat's life. The number of accidents I have met with is not too small :) Interestingly, what has hurt me most is in my own school. I fell down while reading a book and fractured my leg which confined me to three months of plaster and another six months of limping. It's always the closest that harms the most!Tomichan Matheikalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05037872309096060126noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2102451431033041663.post-72640527643314797312014-04-13T20:09:49.189+05:302014-04-13T20:09:49.189+05:30Dear Mr. Tomichan, Thanks for sharing this post. ...Dear Mr. Tomichan, Thanks for sharing this post. Hope you must have recovered from the situation by now.. Yes, as someone mentioned, we do go through these bad experiences from today's youth and other people from time to time. Am not sure who or what to blame it for - parenting ? Yes, making everything available without sweat make the children not read to face challenges...Jayantahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00853040622450226979noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2102451431033041663.post-33128639421717138982014-04-13T19:52:06.671+05:302014-04-13T19:52:06.671+05:30Very true, these days kids simply cannot appreciat...Very true, these days kids simply cannot appreciate little happiness in life as they are showered with gifts even before they ask for it. A similar experience that I came across in the sand park of our apartment, a young child as old as 8years gave back to me that their parents paid the same maintenance as I and hence could play on the swing for as long as she pleased, it was indeed shocking for me. I hope you are fine. Will share this article. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2102451431033041663.post-77303307695605400842014-04-13T16:48:04.491+05:302014-04-13T16:48:04.491+05:30Tomichan - you should have given them two tight sl...Tomichan - you should have given them two tight slaps .. you are right the parents are to be blamed if a child cannot respect other fellow members of the society. I am not saying spanking is the right way to teach a child, but if necessary a parent should consider that too. Sangrywordshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10088717507474208714noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2102451431033041663.post-14477118628397135272014-04-13T15:34:10.490+05:302014-04-13T15:34:10.490+05:30I referred ur article because thats the thing yout...I referred ur article because thats the thing youth wants to learn , real happiness. .<br />I have also commented on same ..it seems u have not yet read my comments on thatVarsha Bothrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01396677433547736136noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2102451431033041663.post-85719475666650423112014-04-13T15:27:16.200+05:302014-04-13T15:27:16.200+05:30Sry sir ... i couldn't stop myself from commen...Sry sir ... i couldn't stop myself from commenting on this blog...<br />the blog left me speechless.... i could remember the time when i spoke to few of my teachers rudely... ohh how wrong i was.... they are of same age of my parents.. and being living in a hostel i can even say that they are the one who raised me.. pampered me ...loved me and i was so shamless i argued with them when they scolded me....<br />amazing blog sir.... u made me realise my mistake :(Manishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01324942675353985461noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2102451431033041663.post-19579471185627654012014-04-13T15:15:05.814+05:302014-04-13T15:15:05.814+05:30I too am a mother and I often wonder how my son wo...I too am a mother and I often wonder how my son would behave once he grow up. I also wonder which of my parenting mistakes might end up being discussed at the office of a counsellor. The internet generation is very fast and we parents are ill equipped for the pressures parenting these days.<br />Don't blame parents sir..or anyone for the sake of naming. Right from the person who gave them the bike overlooking their age, the lazy traffic police and the adrenaline rush called youth all are eligible for the blame.<br /><br />Thank God you are ok... Be safe.<br /><br />Preethi Venugopalahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17187379434511139078noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2102451431033041663.post-49088839385956765612014-04-13T15:10:33.821+05:302014-04-13T15:10:33.821+05:30We can't avoid intermingling of cultures in th...We can't avoid intermingling of cultures in the globalised world, Varsha. What can be done is to give the required thinking and analytic skills to youngsters. <br /><br />By the way, I'm thrilled that you quoted another article of mine. Tomichan Matheikalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05037872309096060126noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2102451431033041663.post-60389761795559163162014-04-13T15:08:31.931+05:302014-04-13T15:08:31.931+05:30You find a lot of kids these days showing off thei...You find a lot of kids these days showing off their driving skills on public roads these days. Delhi is particularly notorious for that. There are late night revels by bikers in certain areas. But challenging nature's laws always invites risks, as you mentioned in the example. Tomichan Matheikalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05037872309096060126noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2102451431033041663.post-28185551367454315302014-04-13T15:05:55.852+05:302014-04-13T15:05:55.852+05:30Thanks for the concern, Nilanjana. I was not phys...Thanks for the concern, Nilanjana. I was not physically hurt. The boys had managed to slow down the bike before it hit my shin. Nothing serious. It's their behaviour that I found highly offensive. The least they could have done was to say sorry. <br /><br />The sense of entitlement, you said it right. That's the maladyTomichan Matheikalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05037872309096060126noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2102451431033041663.post-49176898448823488942014-04-13T14:53:50.198+05:302014-04-13T14:53:50.198+05:30Youth is living in the era of intenet where whole ...Youth is living in the era of intenet where whole world comes in hands just by clicking a button. .everything comes so easily. .Parents provides all the facilties to their children just to make sure that their children don't get deprived of anything in their life..I want to relate it with ur article "BODY OBSESSION" thats the actual thing which youth wants to get know and understand and once they understand this then there will be no need of teaching them manners or I can say then parents need not be blamed for their upbringing. .may be western culture is becoming so popular in our country can be one of the reasons for the behaviour of youth.Varsha Bothrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01396677433547736136noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2102451431033041663.post-73078793792603095802014-04-13T13:59:58.876+05:302014-04-13T13:59:58.876+05:30Very true! I always teach my child to sort out dif...Very true! I always teach my child to sort out differences with others through discussions, but sometimes I worry how he is going to cope up with kids who are taught by their parents to be violent! I remember, once I forced my son to go and complain to the mother of his friend who hit him, but was surprised when the mother asked my son," why don't you hit him back?"RATNAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00482612383335751210noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2102451431033041663.post-59820271540023490692014-04-13T13:59:09.857+05:302014-04-13T13:59:09.857+05:30Valid points here, Sir.
My dad wondered about 2 ki...Valid points here, Sir.<br />My dad wondered about 2 kids driving at break-neck speed, who had just avoided missing his car... Fortunately they didn't continue for long. Unfortunately they met with a severe accident further down the road...<br />Glad that you are saved from a major accident. Usually falling on the ground on a busy street can have worse implications...Anita Sabathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13365472694082398017noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2102451431033041663.post-38543423381353652052014-04-13T13:56:26.849+05:302014-04-13T13:56:26.849+05:30Couldn't agree more! Parents are the first te...Couldn't agree more! Parents are the first teachers. The sense of entitlement the next generation has scares me. I do not wish my child, any child, to suffer from the ills that plagued my generation, but nor do I wish them to grow up without any values or any sense of respect. It's a very fine tightrope, but we as parents (and also teachers), must walk it. <br /><br />Sorry for the trauma you suffered, and I wish you a quick recovery.Nilanjana Bosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08656370320322301943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2102451431033041663.post-55355926495758390662014-04-13T09:35:42.235+05:302014-04-13T09:35:42.235+05:30You are lucky to have been born to such parents, N...You are lucky to have been born to such parents, Namrata. Too much luxury has seldom created good human beings. It is better to go through the necessary struggles of life... I'm very familiar with the picture you've drawn here. I see very rich students every day, students who don't know the value of anything, not even the material value, forget moral values. Tomichan Matheikalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05037872309096060126noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2102451431033041663.post-25500691585812366112014-04-13T09:33:12.005+05:302014-04-13T09:33:12.005+05:30Ratna, once I told a group of students, "You&...Ratna, once I told a group of students, "You'd better polish your behaviour a little, your behaviour is the mirror of your parents." A child's personality is already built before he joins the school, any psychology book on personality development will tell you that. What the teacher can do is work on what's already built. <br />Tomichan Matheikalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05037872309096060126noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2102451431033041663.post-82920967135378908472014-04-13T01:10:32.628+05:302014-04-13T01:10:32.628+05:30This is a grave issue. Sir, you're true. Easy ...This is a grave issue. Sir, you're true. Easy availability of things ruins a person. We are three siblings and I remember all of us getting scolded and spanked often. I burnt up my phone and my dad didn't buy me a new one, I am using the old and weary one. :) But I also see a classmate of mine spending 7000 bucks for a birthday treat (and I didn't buy a phone). How this spoils I have seen. Parents are to be blamed for this at the first place. This teaching of values has to start right itself when a kid is in mother's womb. A baked pot can never be reshaped. <br /><br />I am going to share this article.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03138707352343274950noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2102451431033041663.post-69318969682342525882014-04-12T23:45:46.675+05:302014-04-12T23:45:46.675+05:30Very true! Though I always teach my children not t...Very true! Though I always teach my children not to abuse or hit anybody, I have seen many mothers teaching them to retaliate more powerfully if somebody hits them! I am so worried when these children grow up how violent they are going to become?RATNAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00482612383335751210noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2102451431033041663.post-13827901552653266642014-04-12T22:04:17.634+05:302014-04-12T22:04:17.634+05:30There are also good children, yes, Nima, no doubt....There are also good children, yes, Nima, no doubt. No generalisation. If I sounded so, it's my fault, my fault, my grievous fault. Tomichan Matheikalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05037872309096060126noreply@blogger.com