There is a branch of
psychology called Cognitive Psychology according to which our thoughts,
feelings and behaviour are interconnected.
In other words, our thinking is clouded by our feelings and/or attitudes,
and our behaviour is determined by that cloud.
Let us take an
example. A real one. Smiley, please.
A religious leader with a
big fan (devotee) following declares openly that he would have beheaded those
people who refused to pay homage to Bharata Mata, if the law would not have
punished him. How would cognitive
psychology assess the godman?
The godman is suffering
from a serious cognitive disorder, the cognitive psychologist would say
immediately. His thinking is terribly
faulty. His feelings and attitudes seem
to be crude. And hence his resultant behaviour
(making the murderous statement from a public platform knowing that there are
thousands of people listening to him with devotion) is neurotic.
Bharat Mata is a symbol of
the nation and as such deserves to be respected by all citizens. But if some people are not willing to chant
slogans like Bharat Mata ki Jai for
their own reasons, why should the godman take offence so much so that he is
willing to be a murderer? Which is a
greater evil: refusing to chant a nationalist slogan or beheading people for
refusing to chant it? What is a godman
supposed to teach his devotees?
The errors in the man’s
thinking and lack of sophistication in his feelings and attitudes together
create a behavioural disorder which needs treatment, according to cognitive
psychology.
That was just an
example. Cognitive psychology can be
applied to analyse our behaviour. All
behavioural problems stem from faulty thinking and attitudes.
Aaron Beck, founder of
cognitive therapy, worked with a lot of people suffering from neurotic
disorders and found that they all suffered from distorted thinking. Everyone
should worship my gods, My country is the greatest, Difference of opinion is
treason – these are examples of distorted thinking. [These are not examples cited by Beck. I’m using them for the purpose of this post.]
The remedy is to challenge
the distorted thinking. A counsellor
helps the client to challenge his/her own thoughts. We can do it ourselves too. The more we question our thoughts and ideas,
the more accurate they are likely to become.
The more clearly we learn to think, the less murderous we become. Or, putting it positively, the more humane we
become.
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