“People are disturbed not
by events, but by the views which they take of them,” said the Greek
philosopher Epictetus 2000 years ago. 20th
century psychologist Albert Ellis [1913-2007] said the same thing in slightly
different words, “People disturb
themselves by the things that happen to them, and by their views,
feelings, and actions.”
It is facile to argue that
Salman Rushdie or Wendy Doniger disturbs us with their books. The fact is they don’t. There are more people in the world who are not
disturbed by their books than those who are.
What makes the difference?
There is a model in
psychology known as the A-B-C framework. A stands for activating agent, B for belief, and C for Consequence (emotional and behavioural). A book may be the activating agent. It creates a belief in us: that our religion
or god is in danger or something of the sort.
And the consequence is anger, frustration, or some such reaction.
The basic premise of this
approach to psychological understanding of human behaviour is that faulty thinking, making
incorrect inferences on the basis of inadequate or incorrect information, and
failing to distinguish between fantasy and reality engender problems.
In other words, how we
feel and behave is determined by how we perceive and structure our
experience.
How to rectify our wrong
or inaccurate perceptions and interpretations which lead to problems?
The A-B-C framework
suggests that we should question our beliefs with a disputing intervention (D) which will have an effect (E) on our emotions
and behaviour leading to a new feeling
(F).
If we feel hurt by a book,
we can questions ourselves why feel so?
Is the book factually correct? If
it is not, it need not disturb me since I can disprove the claims of the book. If it is factually correct, it is my beliefs
that need correction or modification.
This is just an example. We may
need to ask more questions than these. Relevant
questions.
This may appear too simple
or even childish. The fact is that this
model is working wonders in psychological counselling. It can work wonders in our lives too if we
are genuinely interested in solving our problems. If we want to take political mileage out of
problems, then neither this model nor any other will work. Psychological theories and frameworks are
effective only if our quest for solution is genuine.
Very nice thought and wish if everyone start accusing theselves for their condition.
ReplyDeleteI wouldn't use the word 'accusing', Hemant. It is taking charge of oneself. It is accepting one's own responsibility for his/her life and what happens in it.
DeleteGreat analysis, Sir.
ReplyDeleteABCDEF has so much meaning...
Glad you found it meaningful, Anita. I have used this in my counselling sessions and found it absolutely useful. World over, cognitive psychology is being applied very effectively.
ReplyDeleteBeautifully put: You realize that you control your own destiny
ReplyDeleteThanks, Pankti. In fact, the credit should go to Albert Ellis & Co.
DeleteABCD...
ReplyDeleteObvious truths have to be put out in such writeups to make ome realize it.
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