Title: Marilyn: The Passion and the Paradox
Author: Lois Banner
Publisher: Bloomsbury, 2012
Pages:
515
The worst tragedy is when you become your own enemy.
Marily Monroe was her own enemy and so she ended killing herself at the age of
36. She had become an icon of Hollywood. She had many lovers, all of whom were
highly eminent personalities. Yet she chose to flee from life altogether. This
book tells her story in all its glory and tragedy.
Lois Banner is a historian by
profession and hence the book reads more like history than literature. However,
it is written in a simple style that any reader will find easy to read. There
is absolutely no jargon or academic verbosity. Banner divides Marilyn’s story
into five parts: (1) Childhood, (2) Hollywood, (3) Meaning of Marilyn, (4)
Departure from Hollywood and life in New York, and (5) Return to Hollywood.
As the subtitle of the book
indicates, Marilyn was a passion and a paradox. In Marilyn’s own words, “A lot
of people like to think of me as innocent, so that’s the way I behave to them.
If they saw the demon in me, they would hate me… I’m more than one person, and
I act differently each time. Most of the time I’m not the person I’d like to be
– certainly not a dumb blonde like they say I am; a sex freak with big boobs.”
Marilyn was seldom what she presented
herself as. Her demeanour carried the innocence of a child which made her so
very appealing to men. She could look like an angel. But her soul teemed with demons.
The demons were real and Marilyn was an illusion. Marilyn Monroe, the heroine
of Hollywood, was an appearance. When you live your whole life as a projected
image, one day your very reality will emerge with vengeance and demand your
attention. “Hey, I am the real you,” it will scream at you. How long can you
put that reality to sleep with the help of barbiturates as Marilyn did? The
more you suppress that reality, the bigger your inner monster becomes. That is
what happened to Marilyn. Finally she was swallowed by her own inner monster. “A
massive overdose of Nembutal and a toxic dose of chloral hydrate” put an end to
the life of the “sex kitten” of Hollywood.
Marilyn was a kitten that refused to
grow up.
She had a pathetic childhood. By the
age of 16, she had lived in eleven foster homes and an orphanage. She had many
mothers and no father. Many mothers because her own mother, Gladys, was never
quite well. So Marilyn was looked after by foster mothers. Gladys was so
promiscuous that Marilyn’s father was a conjecture rather than a fact. Marilyn’s
original name was Norma Jeane Mortensen. Mortensen was her mother’s husband
when she was conceived. But Gladys said that Marilyn’s father was Stan Gifford.
Marilyn thought of herself as a “mistake,” an unwanted child that happened to
be born. Her miserable childhood gave her many disabilities: dyslexia, stutter,
nightmares populated with monsters and witches, insomnia, bipolar disorder, and
paranoid schizophrenia. In addition to all these psychological problems was a
physical problem: endometriosis.
Marilyn suffered much. Too much
suffering can make you a fraud.
It will give you terrible insecurity
feelings, at least. Marilyn was so insecure about herself that she looked for a
father-figure instead of a husband. She married many men and had affairs with
more. Some affairs were too casual. For example, “Marilyn saw Marlon Brando.
They went to dinner and sometimes wound up in bed.” As simple as that. Sex was
as casual an affair as a dinner for her. Did she really enjoy all that sex? She
had plenty of it. Was she a nymphomaniac? The author of this biography doesn’t think
so. Marilyn had certain psychological disorders which made her look for long
for attention and sex was one of the easiest ways of getting attention from men
who mattered, men such as John F Kennedy and his brother Robert, Frank Sinatra,
and baseball star Joe DiMaggio. When Arthur Miller married her, Marilyn thought
she was getting the ideal husband, a man who would be a father to her. This
book informs us that Marilyn called her husbands Papa or Daddy.One of the few colour pages of the book
Marilyn loved to expose her naked
body whenever she could. Was she trying to lay bare her soul in fact?
“She is the child in all of us,” Lois
Banner tells us towards the end of the book, “the child we want to forget but
can’t dismiss.” Marilyn forgot to grow up. Rather, her terrible childhood left
her wanting simple affection, hugs, tenderness, security. When you hanker after
these things in your adulthood, you are in for serious troubles. Marilyn’s life
shows us how.
Read this book if only to learn the
price that people like Marilyn Monroe paid for being a heroine.
Nice review Tom. Marilyn Monroe was definitely an enigma. After reading the review, I feel really sorry for her as I did not know her childhood was so pathetic. I intend to read the book myself.
ReplyDeleteProbably it is the misery of the childhood that made Marilyn the enigma that she was. More than enigma, she was a paradox, I think.
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