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Friendship in Kishkindha

Tara and Rama as imagined by Copilot Designer


Kishkindha is a liminal world, a world between humans and gods, a world of monkey-like creatures that think and behave like humans. The Vanaras are said to be born of gods to assist Rama in his mission. But I have come across many interpretations in which a Vanara like Hanuman serves an allegorical function to teach us how to channel our untamed, primal instincts towards righteousness and higher goals. The moment we bring supernatural intervention (like animals specially created by gods to play a major role in the plot), a plethora of interpretations flow in. We can find any number of symbolic and allegorical meanings in the Vanara kingdom.

Friendship is a major theme in this section of the epic. There is a friendship of convenience, a friendship that is more of a political strategy, between Rama and Sugriva. There is deep devotion which goes far beyond friendship in the relation between Hanuman and Rama. We will discuss Hanuman later (under letter H in this series).

Is Sugriva a genuine friend?

Sugriva became Rama’s friend because both of them had a common grief: loss of spouse. Sugriva’s wife, Ruma, was forcibly taken by his brother Vali. Rama’s wife was abducted by Ravana.

Vali was the Vanara King in Kishkindha. One day the demon Mayavi challenged Vali and their fight took place in a cave. Sugriva, Vali’s brother, stood outside the cave. After a while, blood flowed out of the cave and Vali didn’t come out. Assuming that Vali was killed, Sugriva closed the mouth of the cave with a boulder and returned to the palace. He not only crowned himself the king but also married Tara, Vali’s wife. It was customary in some cultures for a man to marry his dead brother’s wife in those days.

Vali was not dead, however. He returned, defeated Sugriva in a fight, and married Ruma, Sugriva’s wife. Too many men (and a few gods too) are after the wives of other men in the Ramayana.

Sugriva lived in the constant fear of imminent death at the hands of his brother. That’s when Hanuman, his minister, brings Rama to him. Hanuman is aware of Rama’s divine origin and superhuman powers. A friendship is forged between Rama and Sugriva, a bond of convenience, a political strategy: You help me and I will help you.

Rama helps Sugriva to kill Vali, not without employing some deception. Sugriva now becomes the king of Kishkindha, marries his brother’s wife Tara, and forgets his promise to Rama. But Rama knows that the kind of friendship he has struck with Sugriva requires more diplomacy than devotion. In the meanwhile, Tara and Hanuman manage to convince Sugriva of his duty to fulfil his commitment to Rama. He does give his best after that.

Tara emerges as a heroine in Kishkindha.

When Sugriva challenges Vali to a duel, Tara warns Vali not to accept the challenge hastily because her feminine intuition smells something amiss. Sugriva will not have the courage to challenge Vali, Tara knows, unless there is a crooked strategy behind. “No one returns from the forest without a plan,” she cautions her husband, “Sugriva must have found a strong ally.” Vali is too proud not to pick up the gauntlet thrown on his face. One’s destiny cannot be stopped.

Tara accepts her destiny too and cooperates with Sugriva even to the extent of becoming his wife, after Vali is killed by Rama for Sugriva. She stands out as a female voice of reason in a male-dominated narrative. She embodies the ideal of wise counsel – compassionate, courageous, resilient, and clear-sighted. Even Valmiki admired her beauty and grace, wisdom and foresight, eloquence and persuasion, emotional depth and composure, and political acumen. She questions Rama too.

“Whose maryada, moral code, did Rama follow? Kishkindha’s or Ayodhya’s?” She asks.  Rama was mute before the questions put to him by the dying Vali too. “Animals hunt for food, or mate, or territory,” he told Rama. “Why did you hunt me?” [This is not from Valmiki Ramayana, but the south Indian folk Ramayana which I find more intelligent.] Writing about this in his book, Many Ramayanas, Many Lessons, Anand Neelakantan says, “Rama is thus imposing the human moral values of Ayodhya society on Bali’s [Vali’s] kingdom of Kishkindha.”

Should Rama Rajya be thus imposed everywhere?

I’m still trying to make sense of the epic and hence such questions arise in my mind as I go on with my study of the epic. Those who know the answers are requested to post them in the comment space below.

Eventually the Vanara Sena puts in their best for the sake of Rama, a man with whom they had nothing to do.

Who was whose friend in Kishkindha? Everybody was a friend; at least, everybody could have been. Even Vali.

The dying Vali tells Rama (as quoted in Neelakantan’s book), “I am the king, and I would have rendered you justice. You have come to my kingdom as a mendicant, not an invading prince. The right thing would have been to come to the king and ask for help. I would have given you justice. Instead, you decided to perpetrate an injustice.”

Some friendships are forged expediently. And some are missed because of our negligence.

PS. I’m participating in #BlogchatterA2Z. This series looks at the Ramayana from various angles.

Tomorrow: Golden Deer: Illusions

Previous Posts in this series:

Ayodhya: Kingdom of Sorrows

Bharata: The Ascetic King

Chitrakoot: The Antithesis of Ayodhya

Dharma and Destiny

Exile and the Kingdom

Comments

  1. As you said, friendships are of different kinds, some true and enduring, some others forged our of pure convenience. The murder of Vali by Rama has always been a point of contention in the epic.

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    1. I hanve often wondered whether Valmiki was trying to tell us that even gods are helpless sometimes and even they have to resort to deception occsionally. Or, at least, they make mistakes.

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  2. Hari Om
    And here we find the unavoidable matter of diplomacy (Rama), detente (betweent the brothers), and deception (Sugriva). I could draw a direct analogy to the current British PM, who is seen as someone trying so hard to not step on any toes and avoid conflict, whilst still seeking to gain the best for his own (the nations's) ends...and seeming like a pawn as a result... but that may be stretching things, rather! One does find oneself considering the sanctioned assassinations that have taken place over more recent times - whilst short term gains may have arisen in terms of peace and objectives, there can never really be justification.

    Alliances are a fact of wider society, however. Sometimes they work for us, and sometimes against. We are seeing immediate evidence of this, globally. It has ever been thus. Is it then, so strainge to find such depiction in the soap opera reading? Are we not surrounded by those in power saying if you are not my friend you are my enemy? The impossibility of being 100% "right" when taking sides is what is represented.

    For the seeker of higher understanding the scene is set to make us question our ability to read fully any situation, to understand motivations, and to assess whether means justify ends. YAM xx

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    1. That's the most intelligible interpretation of this whole episode, I think.

      This part of the epic left me quite disturbed. But then I always console myself that this is fiction. But why on earth would a great poet, a sage, a seer, put his protagnist in this sort of a situation? You have the most acceptable answer.

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  3. I visited Kishkinda in January this year and was told this story by the historian accompanying us. We were also shown the places where a lot of exchanges took place. Fascinating read! Mayuri

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    1. How much of this is history and how much myth is something we may never know.

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  4. I too wonder at the complex nature of dharma and the righteous people. I just feel that everyone has Achilles Heels!

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    1. Yes, everyone including divine incarnations has flaws.

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  5. Friendships are like people. Flawed.

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  6. Friendships have always been about convenience, I guess ! And I do not think imposing anything is ever wise in the long run. It is not even sustainable. Even Ram Rajya got perished in due course of time. And about Bali's death, I think each incarnation (be it Rama or Krishna) is flawed just like the death of Abhimanyu in Mahabharata which and Krishna let it happen !

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    1. The sad end of Rama Rajya is something that I have hinted at again and again in this series. Is contemporary India justified in seeking that sort of a political system? Of course, there are other interpretations like Rama Rajya is about dharma rather than politics. But what we around is adharma and they call it Rama Raya!

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  7. 'vazhakkadu mandram' is a literary court in Tamil literary tradition where justice is sought. A well known judge was Ko. Sathiya Seelan of Trichy who passed away in recent years. Typically one side will presents few complaints with evidence. The opposing side will offer justifications. The topic of 'testing Rama's dharma' about vali's killing was famous one. 'Vali vadam' is also a concept of debate in my own home. Your post discusses Tara. I need to go behind this lead. Thank you.

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    1. Vali murder is indeed a problem vis-a-vis Rama's righteousness. I plan to raise this issue once more under the letter T which will be about Tara, who is another heroic woman in Ramayana.

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    2. Vali murder is indeed a problem vis-a-vis Rama's righteousness. I plan to raise this issue once more under the letter T which will be about Tara, who is another heroic woman in Ramayana.

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