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The concept of positive
thinking gained undue popularity in the last few decades. It does help us much in dealing with certain
problems and obstacles that life brings inevitably. But does it have some drawbacks too?
Psychology tells us that
we are already programmed for over-optimism.
‘Optimism bias’ is what psychology calls it, according to which we have
a natural tendency to think that bad things will happen to us less often than
they will happen to other people. Earthquakes
and floods and other such disasters won’t occur where we live. The airplane which is carrying us won’t
crash. The train on the other track may
derail but not ours.
There is actually a part
of the brain that sustains this sort of optimism which is a kind of inbuilt
defence mechanism. The problem with this
defence-shield is that it can make us over-optimistic. It can make us blind to certain potential
hazards and threats. It can blunt our
caution.
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It can also make us blind
to our real situation. It can make us
believe that we are making progress when we are actually standing still. Positive thinking can be disastrous for a
student who may be tempted to overestimate his efforts and hence the
results. It can be equally disastrous
for anyone, in fact. It can make us dreamers. Positive thinking can delude us.
Positive thinking can make
us incapable of learning the necessary lessons from our failures. Let’s say I fail to understand the motives of
the new management that takes over the institution where I am just an ordinary
staff. I understand the situation only
when I am thrown on the road one fine morning.
Fine, because I’m a positive thinker.
I keep telling myself that whatever happens is for the good because I’m
a positive thinker.
Nothing good turns out,
however. Things move from the road to
the alleys and byways which become increasingly dark and murky. Depression descends. Antidepressant tablets buoy me up. Floating on the waves of the positive feeling
given by those drugs, I manage to find some light at the end of the murky
byway. My positive thinking
returns. Now I look back at the terrible
experience and begin to give it a different colouring. The new colours make me feel better. They make me feel more positive about myself
and life in general. I become a hero or
a victim or whatever suits my need and nature in the hindsight.
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This positive
refabrication of the past makes me forget the lessons I should have
learnt. Positive thinking makes me feel
that I have been in control over myself.
I need that delusion.
Much positive thinking may
indeed be a delusion, a feeling of wellbeing when many things are not quite
well. We live in a world which gives a
lot of importance to positive thinking.
There are pop psychology speakers and writers, cult gurus, art of living
maestros, religious leaders and all sorts of people preaching positive
thinking. But the world is becoming more
and more negative. More vicious and
violent. All the positive thinking that
is being dished out in numerous forms is not seen in practice in the actual
life. That’s because we have created
only a feeling of wellbeing and not the real wellbeing itself. We have created the delusion of positivity
and not positivity itself.
Positive thinking that
does not create positive action is mere delusion.
Brought out the Truth as is.. Everywhere 'The Golden Mean Path'is the best which often makes us see the reality of our existence 'As Is' as much as possible without leaving the ambition part of it which equally is the propelling force of Growth and True Positive Expression..
ReplyDeleteKeeping the ego under control is quite a challenge for most people. The golden mean is a tool that ordinary people find it hard to hit. Hence the escapist delusions and illusions.
DeleteExcellent! Thank you for saying something based on reality. I need my delusions too, but at least I realize they are delusion.
ReplyDeleteI too have my delusions, Sherry. Can we live without any delusion? But that realisation makes all the difference!
DeleteAgreed. Delusions are necessary, but people (in general) are in trouble if they don't *know* they're delusional. BTW - not to promote myself, but to promote you and your wisdom - I mentioned this article specifically in my post - http://www.mytruckalogue.com/2016/05/truck-driver-in-limbo-post-379.html - at the bottom of the paragraph above the animal pictures.
DeleteThanks, Sherry. Wish you a speedy recovery.
DeleteI agree with everything you say here. Although I understand that being positive helps us accept the things that have not worked the way we would have liked it to. But at the same time, there have been a couple of incidents where I've wondered whether I was really being optimistic or 'in denial.'
ReplyDeleteI agree -- being too optimistic makes you blunt caution.
That "in denial" phase is part of the delusion I spoke about. It happens to a lot of people. As another readers mentioned in a comment, being aware of our delusions helps better. Anyway, being in denial is worse than being under delusion.
DeleteSir, The more I read your blog, the more I'm becoming fan of you and your writing.
ReplyDeleteHappy to hear that.
DeleteThe pictures were so interesting! I have written on a similar note too yesterday. http://nimadas.blogspot.in/2016/05/hope-on_14.html
ReplyDeleteI wish you'd found the text too interesting :)
DeleteI read your post. There's a difference in the perspectives. I hope I made it clear in my comment on your post.
Hmm, something to ponder on! I've only heard good things about positive thinking, this is a different perspective. Does seem like we living in a make-believe utopia!
ReplyDeletePositive thinking and negative action: make believe it has to be.
DeleteThats wat i believe also mere saying thinking positive won't work......
ReplyDeletehttp://ankeetaverma.blogspot.in/2016/05/idea-of-positivity-not-positive-enough.html
Thinking without action is useless unless one is an Immanuel Kant or something :)
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