Love till morning
Last Christmas I gave you my heart
But the very next day you gave it away
This year, to save me from tears
I'll give it to someone special
Wham! sang those lines in 1980s. They wouldn’t sing it today.
No one wants to give their heart anymore to anyone, it seems. Maybe, there’s no
heart anymore.
Situationship has become a regular word in English.
Relationship is a burden today. Why endure the stress and
strain caused by such commitments? Love the skin, enjoy the sex, and say
goodbye when you are tired of it. You can have multiple partners too. The
New Indian Express tells me [18 Dec 2022] that there many types of
relationships (situationships?) among the youth today. Cookie jar relationship, for example, refers
to dating multiple people before deciding who will be better for you even if it
is for a few days. Keeping one on the hook because either one of the partners
is not ready to commit even for a few days is called benching. Roaching
is when you hide from your partner that you have many such partners. There
could be more.
The writer of the above Express article claims that
this kind of relationships has an advantage: “Allows companions intimacy
without commitment.” I wonder whether that is really possible. Can we have any
meaningful relationship with another person without some commitment? I feel
tremendous commitment even towards my cats! Can you love without commitment?
Well, I guess I belong to another generation altogether. Sometimes when I deal with the young nowadays, I feel that I don’t belong to this galaxy at all.
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You are absolutely right, Tom. Even I cannot imagine any intimacy without any commitment in the relationship or situationship or whatever. I guess we have become too old to understand the kind of things the younger generations come up with. On the other hand maybe the younger generations are too young to understand the value of a relationship with true commitment.
ReplyDeleteI'm absolutely convinced that i have become a kind of scarecrow among the young generation 😊
DeleteAn interesting piece...
ReplyDeleteWelcome back to this space 😊
DeleteHari Om
ReplyDeleteWhat is being discussed is the difference between lust and Love. Far too often the former is taken as being the latter. The freedoms of today are a treasure, for sure... but with freedom comes the responsbility of avoiding licentiousness. That requires engaging one's intellect... not that often to the fore when hormones are raging! YAM xx
True, it's lust vs love and the youngsters are failing to draw the necessary line.
DeleteTomichan you nailed it again. unfortunately the word intimacy was not understood either us, or the generation before us, intimacy is not about sex... it is about feeling safe in a relationship. Essentially kids are so bubble wrapped that they don't know intimacy. forget with another, they are not comfortable with themselves either.
ReplyDeleteMost of my students loved their Covid masks. When the air became safe enough to remove the mask, these students didn't. I asked whether they feared the virus or themselves more. Most were honest to tell me that they kept the mask as a self-defense mechanism. So, you're right, they are not comfortable with themselves and that leads a lot of problems.
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