Intimacy is rooted in
understanding. It is impossible to live without at least one intimate
relationship. As John Powell says in The
Secret of Staying in Love, “No one can know his own beauty or perceive a
sense of his own worth until it has been reflected back to him in the mirror of
another loving, caring human being.” Intimacy is that mirror.
Understanding each other
leads to the discovery of each other’s inner beauty. It heals the wounds that
inevitably mar that beauty occasionally. It can remove scars too. Intimacy has
the tenderness of a soothing balm. Intimacy is a melodious poem that keeps on
composing itself endlessly. Its rhythm is like the flow of a mountain brook;
there are occasional stumbles and rumbles too.
“Is physical intimacy the
only thing which matters in a relationship? Can you live without it and yet be
happy?” Blogger Anushree Aggarwal
raised the question. Why
can’t one live without physical intimacy and yet be happy? There are plenty of
people who do that; priests and nuns, for example. Real intimacy may have
nothing to do with physicality.
If we consider ordinary
relationships, physicality is not an issue at all. I have a few intimate friends
with none of whom I have any physical relationship and won’t ever have.
The physical aspect is
not a part of intimacy, in fact. That is a mere biological need which has
certain emotional trappings. My hunch [since I have no experience in this
matter] is that physical intimacy is undesirable in healthy friendships except
with one person. Yes, that fidelity is crucial when it comes to physicality.
Otherwise, relationships are likely to be shallow affairs. Moreover, does sex play
any role in friendly relationships?
Real intimacy is a sacred
experience, as John O’Donohue says. Intimacy belongs to the soul, not to the
body.
Beautiful writ up, good to go through the quotes and the view points(Logic) you have shared.
ReplyDeleteGlad to hear that.
DeleteAgree with you fully. Intimacy gives you insights into your soul but also to sustain a relationship itimacy is not the only factor.
ReplyDeleteOnly a few relationships can be intimate for any individual. Among them physical intimacy should be a guarded affair, limited by marital or similar fidelity. That's my view.
DeleteYes, I agree that real intimacy is a sacred experience... but then we have maverick hormones doing the unexpected all the time. The mind too remains helpless when hormones decide to strike. Do read about the link-up of intimacy with hormones in my post.
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I kept nodding throughout the post. I agree, companionship transcends the boundaries of physical intimacy. And again, the definition pf physical intimacy varies from person to person. Over all there is something sacred in relationships that really matter.
ReplyDeletei believe sometimes the intimacy with your special someone does need the physical touch!
ReplyDeleteagree with you, that discovering inner beauty is a beautiful journey by itself.
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ReplyDeleteTypes of intimacy depend the type of your relationship.
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